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The Silver Lining of Divorce

Divorce is not a step most couples want to take.  But when the papers are signed and the dust has settled, I’ve found that most couples ultimately recognize the insurmountable problems they had in their marriage. Still, getting divorced is like going through chemotherapy to become cancer free.  It can be a brutal emotional process […]

Wondering if mediation is right for you?  Here’s what you need to know.  Have questions?  Ask in the comments.  In A Nutshell: Many divorce cases are suitable for mediation (even when there is ongoing conflict; even when trust is damaged from an affair). Mediation can involve just one mediator and be low-cost, or can involve […]

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I’ve watched friends get divorced and friends get sober, and it’s always surprising to me how much the recovery process is the same.  Those first several months, it can be a struggle to make it through each day.  For the alcoholic, the overwhelming urge is to take that drink.  For the person getting divorced, the […]

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What do “trust your gut when it’s time to bail”, “the hardest part is getting out there”, and “don’t always believe your friends when they say go for it” have in common?  Each of these phrases can be related to dating or surfing. Carmel Valley resident, Nancy Spooner Bsharah and San Diegan, Tara Brouwer combine […]

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Relationships with Exes

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I’ve been dating my guy for a little over a year now and recently discovered that he has been in daily communication (texts and phone calls) with his ex.   None of the texts I stumbled upon were overtly inappropriate, but all were signed with “love you’s” and just the fact that they talk every […]

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Dear Gilly,   I have been dating someone for 6 months.  I’ll call her girl A.  We have an open relationship but I’m pretty sure she wants more.  I like her alot but am not sure that she is “the one”.  I recently moved to a different state and we agreed to allow each other […]

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Basic Dating Rules

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A couple of weeks ago, I promised a reader my break-down of basic dating rules.  Here they are: Play with a full deck - No one wants to date a crazy person.  Playing with a full deck means playing it cool. Here are some behaviors that will put you on instant  stalker status: Calling or texting […]

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Dear Gilly, My friend is having an affair.  I’ve been friends with her for years before she met her husband, but consider him a friend as well.  They’ve had problems for a while, but she just started this affair a couple of months ago.  I hate knowing what she is doing because I feel really […]

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Dear Gilly, I’m tired of being the nice guy.  I’ve gone on plenty of dates and always end up being the friend and confidant rather than the boyfriend.  I keep meeting women and becoming friends with them (because they don’t feel “that way” about me) only to be their sounding board for the a**holes they […]

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Hurt and Confused

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I have been dating a guy pretty casually for the past month and a half. We would meet up with friends, mainly his, a few times for drinks, and we went on two actual dates.  We seemed to be hitting it off really well and then after the last date, we slept together and now […]

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  I’ve been feeling really run down and tired lately and have a few people in my life who really drain my energy. In talking to my girlfriend, she said that it’s because I’m participating in an unequal energy exchange with those people. I kind of get what she’s saying, but don’t really understand how […]

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Fit to be Tied

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I have been living with my boyfriend for 2 years now and really want to move forward and tie the knot.  The trouble is, that when we first moved in together, he made it clear that he didn’t ever want to get married again (he’s divorced).  I said ok, hoping that he’d change his mind. […]

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