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How to Make New Year’s Resolutions Actually Work

Fifteen year old Billy told his parents that his New Year’s Resolution for 2014 would be to get straight A’s this year in school to better his chances for college admission. Up to this point, Billy had historically struggled in school given some mild learning differences and a diagnosis of Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder, both of […]

Meaningful Gifts

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Meaningful Gifts

With the holidays just around the corner, children and adults alike are struggling to find that “right” gift for a loved one and become concerned with issues such as quantity, quality, degree of personal appreciation, and amount of money available for gift buying in an economy that is tight for many. The giving of a […]

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Now that the Thanksgiving family holiday is just around the corner and other holidays are coming next month, many are preparing for extended family holiday visits.  Although for some the experience is enjoyable and savored, for others it can be a time of stress and conflict.  This is due to the fact that earlier conflicts […]

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Childhood Obesity Update

September is National Childhood Obesity Awareness Month and for important reasons.  Over the past four decades, obesity rates in children and adults have continued to soar and despite numerous attempts to stop the problem, both kids and adults alike continue to both eat poorly and lack proper exercise.  Why?  Could it be as simple as […]

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After the long summer months, families have a natural tendency to get out of school-time sync and before you know it, school is back in session and there is an absence in needed structure and organization. Pretty soon, things start to unravel, and a problem such as not turning in assignments,  is the dinner table issue. […]

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Dangerous games, failing grades, drug and alcohol abuse, habitual rebellious behavior, and in the worst case, teenage suicide, are all examples of “warning signs” that a “tween” or adolescent are in trouble, and that their behavior is not normal as compared to what is considered expected for a teenager.  The old adage that “kids will […]

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In order to truly break a habit, we need to fully understand exactly what a habit represents. In other words, habits are complex due to the fact that they are a part of our personality or character. Here, the habit functions as an active component of our lifestyle serving commonly a multitude of functions or […]

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Confidence is the capacity to believe in oneself and not be in a place of self-doubt or worry.  How is confidence established? Self-confidence is earned, not given. A belief in oneself must be attained first hand by the person and absorbed into one’s mind as internal strength. The development of confidence comes from experiencing successful experiences […]

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Assertiveness is the capacity to comfortably communicate one’s feelings and intentions in a positive and confident manner. Once a child has established the capacity to rely on themselves age appropriately and demonstrate consideration for another, assertion has to do with how a child then communicates themselves to others. Assertiveness is based on healthy self-esteem and […]

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“Treat others the way you wish to be treated”. Such a simple cliche but if a child has not developed the capacity to put themselves in another’s shoes, consideration is not possible. When is a child old-enough to be considerate and how can they be taught this virtue? Normal Developmental Theory teaches us that before a […]

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Virtue, developmental milestone, or perhaps the single most valuable human trait, self-reliance is about the capacity to self-care. Once a child has achieved the notion of existing independently from their caregivers, the optimal parenting position is to assist their child in learning how to transition from receiving and internalizing love and nurturance to applying this […]

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Transitions

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Transitions.  Transitions are always difficult whether you are a two-year old learning to toilet train, a 13-year old transitioning to high school, or, a 60 year old person retiring.  Transitions deal with change.  Change introduces conflict and, too much conflict leads to anxiety.  Depending upon one’s attitude, a transition can be seen as an opportunity […]

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